People and Me

I often wonder what people would say about me. Well, there may be good commendations or not-so-good comments that may hurt my feelings. But they may be reflections of how they see me as a person.

Personalities and attitudes are big deals in my field. One wrong move and you're done. One false answer may endanger your reputation, your job, or worse, even your life.

What people say about you vary from whom you are asking. If you ask a very close friend. He would rather tell you all your ups and downs. Your triumphs and shortcomings but not sounding judgmental. Their comments are not hurting us, or maybe a little bit, but generally speaking, they are the ones we are at home telling our deepest darkest secrets. Maybe you could ask them.

People we meet have different experiences and backgrounds. Depending on the person's past experiences are his/her view of life and how he/she interprets or assesses the situation. Some may have developed certain degrees of insecurity since childhood. Being in a situation which you are caught off guard, there people suddenly explode in anger or discontent or frustration because it triggers something about their past which they don't want to experience again or hate to recall. Yes, every person has his/her own personal brokeness. This, oftentimes, bring about disputes and misunderstanding.

Let's cite an example. You went out to buy a new phone. For you it was a gift for yourself for a job well done and for the hardships that you had. But this person sees you as vain and materialistic because you do not need a complicated phone to make calls and send messages. Now looking into the the experience of this person. As a child, this person may be deprived of material belongings and was made to settle on simple things. Conflict here may arise from just taking different stakes in one subject.

Why then that others commend you of what you do or even just who you are. The explanation is still the same, because of previous experience. Some would be very glad of who you are because they see you as a personification of who they wanted to be but was not able to reach, or you may be the ideal person that they wanted their sons or daughters or relatives to become, or you are the epitome of who that person was before that amuses him/her. In any cases, we have to be thankful to them and appreciate what they do. It's the simple things in life that makes them happy.

Each person is made different and unique from one another. Despite there differences, one thing could surely bind us all, and that is, relationship. This is why we are created as social beings because we socialize. As we socialize, we establish relationships. Open dialogues and simple conversations or just exchange of thoughts may help us out bring forth our messages.